At this point, the concept of finding confidence seems cliche. This mystical end-goal of our journeys where we’re unabashed ourselves and happy with who we are. The good and the bad.
If you’re like me, then you’d say, “Yeah, I’m getting there.” There are glimmers and moments we might feel radiant and capable, but we inevitably stumble and doubt everything. Hello, imposter syndrome!
Now let’s throw in another factor to the mix: finding confidence in God and spirituality. Seeking God has inevitably led to greater self-confidence, and it makes sense why: if we are conscious beings from God, and we trust in God, then we can better trust and understand who we are. Sometimes a fresh perspective is the secret ingredient to true progress.
So, in this journey of self-discovery, how do we feel comfortable with ourselves, and how can confidence in God help us? Self-consciousness holds us back and keeps us guarded. It can even hold us back from fully connecting with our spiritual selves and recognizing God’s role in our lives. If we tear down our barbed-wire fences and allow God in, then finding confidence will become easier and more attainable.
the struggle is real.
Finding confidence, in God and in yourself, takes time. Lots of it. We can’t find genuine confidence until we really begin to understand our essences, the strengths and weaknesses. What sets your soul ablaze with passion?
The same sentiment goes with finding confidence in God. We must open ourselves up to Spirit. Only then can we explore the depths of God’s nature. God is infinitely complex and mysterious, but every religion on earth is a path toward understanding spiritual wisdom and purpose.
We’ve heard plenty of times, “Fake it until you make it.” Pretend you know what you’re doing, and eventually you will manifest that into your reality.
This same mentality goes toward faith: if you’re willing and open to God, your heart’s intentions will point you in the right direction. Just like blind faith and trust, even when you have no clue what you’re doing or if you’re “doing it right,” you’ll end up growing more accustomed to God’s voice and calling.
both ends of the spectrum.
Hebrews 4:16 says, “Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.” When we feel unsteady on our feet, we have two options: turn to God to help us find stable ground, or turn away from God and try to seek it ourselves.
Ironically enough, too much self-confidence is a major barrier when finding confidence in God. Egoism clings to our human desires and urges. We isolate in our own assumptions that we alone can do everything. “Me against the world.”
In Buddhist teachings, all of us already possess purity and goodness within. Whether our negative thought patterns involve pride or self-loathing, they keep us too preoccupied to see anything beyond ourselves. The more time we spend stewing in egoism and negative beliefs, the harder it will be when finding confidence in God.
We’re trying to find the sweet spot, the “Middle Way.” In that space where we detach from the self-deprecation and self-arrogance, greater ease and confidence come naturally.
Humility is a very prominent theme in religious texts. Everything points toward renouncing all sense of self in order to unveil God.
Again, too much humility doesn’t bring forth greater confidence. Completely disappearing as a unique individual won’t necessarily be the answer for most people.
Yes, we must realize that our limitations as humanity. People, in our current forms, can only know and do so much. However, we still exist with a name, personality, and plethora of passions and interests. Your life makes a difference. God has created you for a purpose only you can fulfill.
With that said, finding confidence in God means you’re finding confidence in your capabilities and life journey. You can demonstrate humility and rest assured that you offer amazing gifts to the world. Certainly your spirit came from somewhere.
confident in me. confident in God.
The ultimate question: how do I know if I’ve found true confidence? Here are some key signs to look for:
It’s not feeling like you need constant outside approval and reassurance to accept yourself because God is within you.
It’s knowing your strengths and weaknesses and not being afraid to admit them because God made you this way.
It’s not being afraid to let down your guard sometimes and being vulnerable because it’s in our best interests to be unapologetically ourselves.
It’s putting yourself out into the world knowing you might get hurt because God will use people and experiences to teach you.
It’s embracing constant change and growth because they’ll end up leading you back to God and divine wisdom.
It’s knowing that if everybody in your world disappeared or abandoned you for some reason, you’ll stay strong knowing God is always present.
The journeys toward finding confidence in God and in ourselves converge: trusting who God is reflects back on how we fit into the picture spirituality paints. Proverbs 3:26 says, “For the LORD will be your confidence and will keep your foot from being caught.”
There will always be times of self-doubt, where our foot gets stuck in mud puddle of questioning everything and beating ourselves up, but God is a sure-fire way of getting ourselves out of that rut and back on both feet, firmly grounded in our ultimate truth.
If you needed a pep talk today: you are an amazing human being. You are so valuable. You have a purpose for being where you are at in this very moment. You are loved and appreciated. You are capable of fantastic things. You are on this earth for a reason.
My words can only offer you so much. I encourage you, dear ones, to silence yourself long enough to hear the intuition, the Spirit, that gut instinct. External words of affirmation can only do so much for your confidence: the true work starts from the core.
And know that with every step you take, God is with you.
Take care, and keep the faith. -Allie
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